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THE THREE LEVELS OF BONDAGE Bondage means getting tied up! Yes but that has nothing at all to do with what level of bondage you do... LEVEL ONE When you say "untie me" the scene stops immediately and you get untied. For beginers though there is no need to progress beyond this level and there is nothing saying that you can't go back to this level whenever you want. LEVEL TWO For a time limit then the scene stops and you get untied. For itermediate level. This is where you should stay for awhile. There is no shame in holding here before going on to the next and final level. LEVEL THREE Unlimited time. You get untied when your partner decides the scene is over. For the advanced people. Requires trust as well as a degree of familiarity with your partner. This is TRUE bondage and is where the greatest thrills are - if you are ready. If you aren't ready then it's where you can easily get scared off of bondage. Some people skip levels one and two and that's a bad bad idea!

DURRING ALL THREE LEVELS OF BONDAGE WE STILL HAVE NEGOTIATION GUIDING US ON HOW FAR BOTH PARTNERS ARE WILLING TO GO!

PUSHING THE ENVELOPE:

Actually we do this from the first time we do bondage. This is modern-speak for "going futher" or "trying more" or "doing the max". It means each time we try something we go a little further, a little better. It is NOT like a race! We go as far as we can and do a bit more IF we can. No references are made to the couple next door or someone on the net. Both partners go as far as the "weakest" link - maybe a bit further - but no more!

Do not get in a hurry here, please! Maybe you get all ecited and want to do more than your partner can handle - don't do it! Enjoy the innocence of which ever one of you can only go so far. They may be wisest! If you can't enjoy the differences betwee you and your partner then, at least, respect them!

If you find yourself as the one who gets stopped by something your partner wants to do then consider it. Don't just put up a wall. If you expect them to stop isn't it only logical for them to expect you to listen? i think so. It's fair.

EXAMPLES OF PUSHING THE ENVELOPE:

Those were the warnings, now let's look at what you can do...

Getting tied up!

• Trying bondage.
  • Just getting tied up for the first time is pushing the envelope, trying something new!
• Hands tied behind back
  • Something new. If he acted like you hoped he would when he tried bondage with you for the first time then maybe it's safe and sane to let him tie your hands behind you for the very first time. How far you can push the envelope each time depends to a degree on how HE acts just as it depends on how you FEEL!
• A new sex position or act.
  • Like having sex while tied up or giving oral sex or whatever you have put off trying. Take advantage of the fact that you are tied up! If he has you to give him oral sex then it's his fault. i am NOT saying for you to submit to doing something that you find abhorent - just something you were afraid to try on your own! This will give you an excellent chance to find out if you like it! It's ok to like anything that two consenting adults do with each other, just as long as it's Safe Sane and Consensual!

WHATEVER SUITS YOUR FANCY OR HIS FANCY - WHICHEVER IS LESS!

That's why we push the envelope - so that both of you 'top out' together! Bondage has a lot of this stuff built-in!

So ya wanna get personal, huh? Well ok, this is the net and i can speak freely. This will probably shock everyone, some because it's so tame and some because it's so wild. Frankly, what would be my ideal today wouldn't inspire me the next day. Not that i'm on such a fast track, but because some days i have a taste for apple pie and some days i'd rather partake of butter pecan ice cream. I'll tell you what, i'll give two examples - one mild and one a little further up the scale. i've done both and i wouldn't trade one for the other. It's like comparing apples and butter pecans...

MILD Involves the helplessness of bondage - and being a woman.

WILD Involves bondage and making pain feel good.

If i could bottle it and sell it i'd be a rich slave!